The Self Talker — Hypnotic Audio Series

What you might be living

You keep meeting the same person.

Different face, different name — unstable, unavailable, never quite ready to stay. And somewhere you know it isn't random.

A quiet loneliness — wanting someone's presence nearby, and feeling unstable without it.

A world that treats a relationship as a completed life stage — and the feeling of failure when you're not there yet.

Meeting people whose intentions don't match yours, without seeing it clearly enough, soon enough, to walk away.

Hoping, each time, that this one is different — until it's time to really commit, and old wounds surface.

Dating apps and short-lived connections that keep things easy on the surface, and keep you from ever stopping to ask what you actually want.

Romantic brings that up to the surface — what actually matters to you in love, and what your ideal partner genuinely looks, thinks, and acts like.

The real cause

It isn't bad luck. It has a name.

You're choosing from a blueprint you've never read: the values, beliefs and old wounds you never put into words.

And the blueprint underneath hasn't changed.

Why trying harder doesn't work

What you've tried keeps you on the surface.

Dating apps keep you on the surface. Understanding it in your head doesn't change who you choose, because the choice is made underneath. More dates won't fix it. Words will.

Why it's so hard to hear your own voice

Your nervous system is overloaded.

This isn't a lack of willpower. It's a nervous system flooded with information you don't need, attention constantly pulled toward entertainment, which stops you from thinking for yourself.

Overload

Your nervous system keeps absorbing information that serves you nothing — and never gets the time to regulate.

Scattering

Your attention gets pulled toward everything except what actually matters to you. The result: you stop thinking, and start reacting.

Disconnection

Cut off from your own sensations, you end up cut off from others too — even while surrounded by people.

How Romantic works

Find the words. Then choose from them.

This isn't a course you watch. It's a guided hypnotic session you answer out loud. A calm voice leads you step by step: Values, Beliefs, Blockages, Ideal Partner, Vision, Goal.

What matters

What you actually need in a relationship, not what you think you should want.

What you refuse

What you never want to live again, named clearly instead of felt vaguely.

What you seek

Who you're really looking for: how they live, think, and treat you.

Once it's in words, you recognise it faster: on a first date, not after two years.

What to expect

About 2.5 hours, fully with yourself.

You set the time aside, find a quiet space, and go through it in one sitting — headphones on, eyes closed. After each question, you pause and answer out loud before moving on.

The start. You settle in, and begin with your Values and how you perceive love.

The middle. You meet your Beliefs and Blockages, and the past that shaped them. A pattern you've explained away for years can finally make sense.

Ideal Partner. You stop guessing. You describe, in your own words, who you're looking for.

The end. Through Solutions, Vision and Goal, you picture what it feels like to be with that person, and to be that version of yourself.

My path

I confused intensity with intimacy for years.

Thailand First Vipassana · Age 20

At 20, I spent 26 days in silence in a temple in Thailand. It showed me how disconnected from yourself you can live without knowing it.

But my patterns in love didn't disappear. From my teens until I was 26, I chased intensity and called it love, over and over, with different people and the same ending.

At 26, I stopped completely, for a while, to understand what I was actually looking for. I learned to spot my patterns, put words on them, and choose differently.

Today I'm in a healthy relationship and I have a family.

Romantic is the process that finally worked for me, built with my NLP and hypnosis training, and guided so you don't have to do it alone.

Who's guiding you

Thomas — Founder, The Self Talker

Master Practitioner in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (diploma). I studied NLP and hypnosis at 26, after that first Vipassana that changed my path.

Since then, I've grown The Self Talker into an Instagram audience of 150,000+ people, where I share how to look inward, question the patterns you run on, and step outside your comfort zone through dance, meditation, and eye gazing. That same approach has guided hundreds of hours of live sessions and one-on-one work — always with the same conviction: transformation happens in presence, not theory.

150k+Instagram followers

4 yrs+guiding this work

Hundredsof hours of accompaniment, through online sessions

What people said

In their own words.

This is awareness on steroid.

Aaron, US About the audios

I finally met that part of myself, my soul, and I feel enormous gratitude and love.

Maria, Mexico Earlier program

Thomas helped me how to love myself.

Bonnie, Boston Earlier program

Maria and Bonnie spoke about my earlier programs. More words from listeners of the audios will appear here as they come in.

The offer

Romantic

A guided hypnotic audio journey to the words for what you want in love — the first of 12 avenues, inside your own private app.

This is not something you attend, it is something you experience, in your own privacy. Set the time aside and listen all the way through, to really go deep. Your private app is yours: open it whenever you want, and come back to it later.

Romantic sectionGuided hypnotic audio, ready now

Your private loginSent by email within 24 hours of payment, then open the app any time

Part of something biggerMore sections on the way

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Inside your private app

One Self. This is where you start.

The Self Talker is a growing map built around one place — you. Today, one door is open: Romantic. Behind it, ten steps you walk through in order — from your values to your goal.

The Self Talker · your map

Open — yours the moment you join Locked — unlock them one by one, or in packs, whenever you're ready

Audios coming next Relationship · Strangers · Family · Money · Career · Health & Fitness · Interest & Activities · Intellectual · Sensual · Sexual · Emotional

Romantic lives inside your own private app — no downloads to manage, no files to lose. Open it on your phone or computer and start whenever you're ready.

The shift

Another date, or the words?

What you've been doing

Choosing from chemistry and timing
Hoping this one is different
Feeling the pattern, without the words

With Romantic

You know what matters, what you refuse, what you seek
You spot the pattern early — and choose
You speak from what you actually feel

The result

Choosing from what you actually want.

Not a new version of you — the version that already knew, underneath the noise. Clearer about what you want, and calmer about who you let in.

Our promise

Do the full session. If it gives you nothing, I refund you.

Listen to the whole session and answer out loud, as invited. If you finish it and feel nothing was gained, write to thomas@theselftalker.com within 14 days and I'll refund you. No questions.

How it works

Three steps, nothing more.

Get your access

Secure checkout at €37. Within 24 hours you'll receive an email with your personal login.

Find a quiet moment

Headphones on, a blindfold over your eyes, somewhere you won't be interrupted — that's all you need.

Listen, at your own pace

Press pause after each question, and take the time to actually answer.

What people usually ask

Your questions, before mine.

Do I need any experience with hypnosis?

No. Each audio guides you step by step — you don't need to believe anything in advance, or have done this before.

What do I actually need to do this?

Headphones, a blindfold, and somewhere quiet and private — you'll be speaking your answers out loud, so a space where you won't be interrupted helps.

Can I listen to them more than once?

Yes — they're yours to keep. Many people return to a section months later and hear something new in it.

How do I get access after I pay?

Within 24 hours of your payment you'll receive an email with your personal login to the private app. Check your spam folder if you don't see it, or write to thomas@theselftalker.com.

Can I get the other sections later?

Yes. Romantic is the first door. The other sections open one by one inside the app — you can unlock them individually, or in packs, whenever you feel ready.

What if it doesn't work for me?

Do the full session, answering out loud. If you finish and feel nothing was gained, write to me within 14 days and I'll refund you.

The first step

Name what you want. Then choose it.

Get Romantic and start whenever you're ready.

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